Becoming Aware of Doubt in Relationships with Others
In this post I will write about the need to become aware of doubt in relationships with others and how it can hinder our spiritual path.
Doubt, Karma and Relationships
Every human being incarnated on Earth now has had thousands of incarnations, either on this planet or on other planets.
We have been told by the Masters that many incarnated beings come from many different origins, as Earth is an environment of learning, experimentation and opportunity for many beings who have ‘fallen’ on other planets or even other ‘spheres’ or universes.
But most of us have formed a ‘web of relationships’ with many of these beings, having incarnated with them successively in different roles, as we have karmic attachments. And in this web of relationships, dealing with these beings has not always been easy, it has probably been challenging in many cases.
We can therefore conclude that we have created a large number of selves associated with these beings, which continue to be stored in our material bodies and unconsciously affect the way we relate to these beings in the present, although we have no conscious memory of this association.
We have all experienced difficulties in relating to some people, even though we have no current memory of the reasons why this happens.
For example, we may have a subconscious belief that a certain person will disappoint us in some way, or that they will never change certain behaviors that affect, irritate or disappoint us.
And if we have not had much contact with such people in the present, we do not know how to explain our reluctance or hesitation towards them, but somehow, we resist meeting them, perhaps because we feel that such contact would be potentially painful for us.
And whatever the reason, the truth is that our resistance to such people needs to be confronted so that we can free ourselves from the karmic attachments that bind us to them, as they involve many emotionally charged energies of negative energy.
This energy is negative for us because it is stored in the emotional body and because it is associated with negative response patterns, it prevents spiritual growth, which can only be achieved through the cleansing of the 4 material bodies.
But it is also negative for the people to whom it is attached because it binds them to us in the same way that it binds us to these beings, projecting onto them the lack of ‘mercy’ that Master Kuan Yin talks about, because if the person is open to receiving this energy it affects us and them and is not positive for either of us.
To project onto another person a pattern of behaviour and relationship that comes from the past is a karmically heavy act that binds the person to a moment in the past that may be distant, but which fixes both people in a particular moment in time that no longer exists, and which continues to influence both people now, preventing their growth.
Also, any negative emotions that are stored and ‘frozen in time’ will bind both people if such emotions are mutual, however unconscious they may be, so we need to be aware of the causes of doubt in relationships with others.
It is necessary to become aware of such emotions and discard them as unreal as they are because they no longer have any support, since both people alive today are very different from the people who existed in the distant past.
After all, they now have a higher level of consciousness now, so it makes no sense to remain connected to the emotional patterns that were developed in that distant past and to maintain the bonds that imprison both people and impede their spiritual growth.
The stored energies of the past lead us to doubt the possibility of other people being able to change, and in practice this doubt is a denial of the possibility of the other person transcending themselves, it is a denial of the other person’s freedom.
Overcoming Doubt about Others
It is not easy to overcome doubt in relationships with others when it has been reinforced over many lives in which the same emotional patterns have been manifested by both people.
This is especially true in close relationships, such as those between husband and wife or parent and child. If the same patterns of distrust, disappointment, frustration have been repeated over a long period of time, they tend to be repeated, even if the roles in the relationship are different in the present.
This is due to the large amount of emotional energy stored in the material bodies of both people and the selves that were created during past relationships, creating bonds that gravitationally pull both people together and tend to repeat themselves if nothing is done to overcome them.
The procedure for overcoming these karmic bonds is to first recognize that we are not the person we were in the past, therefore we are not the emotionally charged selves, nor the beliefs or energy that cling to those selves.
But we have to ‘get out’ of ego-consciousness in order to make a real qualitative ‘leap’ in relation to these selves and recognise our spiritual identity.
For if we analyse the situation with the analytical mind of the ego, we will always be at the same level of consciousness that carries these past selves as baggage.
The ego mind cannot transcend the karmic attachments of the past because its sense of identity is attached to the being that lived those experiences and cannot see beyond them.
Instead, the ego mind identifies with the self that feels hurt, wounded or disappointed by the other person, and no matter how hard it tries, it is unable to transcend these emotions.
This is the mind that doubts that the other person can change, that denies them the possibility of transcending themselves because it keeps reliving the emotions of the emotional wound without being able to do anything else.
Thus, it is necessary to transcend the mortal ego and reconnect with the Conscious You, the spiritual sense of identity, which is the only one that can forgive and accept to be forgiven.
It is therefore essential that all students who follow the path of self-mastery, which aims to regain control as a spiritual being over the material plane and first and foremost over their 4 material bodies, resolve this issue, as doubt keeps us from achieving the most important spiritual goals.
Letting go of the self that is constantly doubting in relationships with others, maintaining separation, and letting go of the self that is blaming itself because it ‘should have done this or that’ to prevent itself from suffering and getting involved with the other, is part of the emotional healing process for all of us.
And an essential aspect of this process is forgiveness. Without it, it is not possible to overcome the self that doubts and denies others the freedom to change. Forgiving ourselves and others frees us all from the rigid and paralysing energies of resentment.
Liberation from doubt is a process of mercy and can only be triggered by the spiritual identity, the only one capable of transcending and becoming more, and the only one capable of transcending doubt in relationships with others, forgiving everything and thus becoming truly free.
The only way to free ourselves and these people is to practice the acceptance that Master Jesus spoke of and the compassion that Master Kuan Yin represents. And we do this with ourselves and with others by accelerating ourselves and forgiving others.
When we truly forgive others and stop projecting onto them images such as ‘this person will never change, this person is ‘this’ or ‘that’, as if others do not have the freedom to choose to be something else, we free ourselves from past attachments and we free the other person. This is a vital step in spiritual growth.
